I have recently found myself single after being in a relationship since I was merely 17. Being an inexperienced singleton at 23 is a rather peculiar realisation.
The questions that most girls ask Cosmo at 18/19 appear at the forefront of your mind. Am I a normal girl? What’s dating? How do I know I do things right? Do I kiss properly?
Seeing myself as a somewhat mature person, these were questions that I never thought I would ask. Luckily, the answer to most of them is ‘yes’. Men are quite happy, if not appreciative (this came from a man), if a woman is naked. Men are quite easily pleased and are happy of any attention that’s heading their way, from a smile to getting down and dirty!
The best advice I can give to any (older than the usual) new singleton is to enjoy your friends. This is the time when you find out who your real friends are. Luckily at 23 you already have a select group of friends that you have whittled down. Accepting their help does not admit defeat. Helping can be anything from a text message to a full blown bitch fest, depending on your needs.
Don’t be afraid to ask those questions. For example, one horrid question: what do men expect of a lady’s topiary? And guess what, they don’t really care. They may have a preference, but again, as long as you’re naked its fine!
At the time of the split, my friends were all doing the same thing: being dumped. Two had been single for about a month or so, then it was my turn, then another dropped and another. There must have been something in the water during Spring/Summer 2010. The hot topic was not the latest collection from Topshop, but that 23 seemed to be the age at which everyone is single.
Of course, we all had the same questions. Why did it end? Will I ever find someone? Where can I get a rabbit? The answers are: because he was a crap boyfriend (even though it was an easy break up and you were going to end it anyway), you will find someone, and Ann Summers is your best friend!
The annoying part of a break up is all the clichés that you will inevitably hear. They are all true, no matter how much they make you want to scream. It is for the best, you can do better, you will be fine. They are clichés for a reason, they’re true.
Just as I am about to publish this, another has been dumped. But, to buck the trend, it’s a boy! So it’s not a plague on women this season, but on all 20-somethings. This disease is not gender specific. There is no cure. But it may not be recurring.
The questions that most girls ask Cosmo at 18/19 appear at the forefront of your mind. Am I a normal girl? What’s dating? How do I know I do things right? Do I kiss properly?
Seeing myself as a somewhat mature person, these were questions that I never thought I would ask. Luckily, the answer to most of them is ‘yes’. Men are quite happy, if not appreciative (this came from a man), if a woman is naked. Men are quite easily pleased and are happy of any attention that’s heading their way, from a smile to getting down and dirty!
The best advice I can give to any (older than the usual) new singleton is to enjoy your friends. This is the time when you find out who your real friends are. Luckily at 23 you already have a select group of friends that you have whittled down. Accepting their help does not admit defeat. Helping can be anything from a text message to a full blown bitch fest, depending on your needs.
Don’t be afraid to ask those questions. For example, one horrid question: what do men expect of a lady’s topiary? And guess what, they don’t really care. They may have a preference, but again, as long as you’re naked its fine!
At the time of the split, my friends were all doing the same thing: being dumped. Two had been single for about a month or so, then it was my turn, then another dropped and another. There must have been something in the water during Spring/Summer 2010. The hot topic was not the latest collection from Topshop, but that 23 seemed to be the age at which everyone is single.
Of course, we all had the same questions. Why did it end? Will I ever find someone? Where can I get a rabbit? The answers are: because he was a crap boyfriend (even though it was an easy break up and you were going to end it anyway), you will find someone, and Ann Summers is your best friend!
The annoying part of a break up is all the clichés that you will inevitably hear. They are all true, no matter how much they make you want to scream. It is for the best, you can do better, you will be fine. They are clichés for a reason, they’re true.
Just as I am about to publish this, another has been dumped. But, to buck the trend, it’s a boy! So it’s not a plague on women this season, but on all 20-somethings. This disease is not gender specific. There is no cure. But it may not be recurring.
Picture: Exhibition of Jean-Michel Folon.Forte Belvedere, Firenze (hope I have cited this correctly)
