After listening to a Kim Cattrall interview for Radio 4's Woman's Hour, I was inspired. She is currently single and loving it.
I've been single for 3 or 4 years now and I am very happy and content. Does the idea of having a man around the house appeal to me? Yes. But is it better than having a bed to myself, doing what I want when I want and living in yoga pants?! For me, the joys of being single outweigh the joys of a relationship.
I've been told that this is because I haven't met the right one. Really? What if I'm meant to be single? I'm heading towards 29, with no man on the horizon and no desire to go and find one. My plans include travel, getting my own place and much more me time doing what I want. A man just doesn't fit in my plans, and that doesn't bother me.
I can truly see myself being single forever and that feels fabulous. No ball and chain tying me down. There's no denying that when you're in a relationship your partner has to at least be aware of your plans, whether that's what work patterns you're doing or what holiday you want to go on . But for me, I have no one to answer to. Unless you include my over protective mother, but even then she's fine as long as she knows where I am. As for my father, I could be on Mars for a month before he'd notice me missing, but I'm sure he'd wonder why only two female voices were nagging him instead of three.
I've loved and been heartbroken and yes, inevitably that has screwed me up emotionally. I don't want to let anyone in for the fear of being hurt again. But that isn't stopping me living.
If I meet someone and they can put up with all my habits, personality flaws and cat obsession, then wonderful! But it's not my be all and end all.
I do not need to find a man. I do not need to settle down. I want to live, I want to travel, and none of those involve a partner. My 5 year plan is very self centred and I love it.
All I've got to do is get my leg operations out the way with and I can truly start my life plan. Until then, I can hobble around, dreaming of my gypsy life.
